Sunday, September 14, 2008

New Blog Question from Alexa in 10H

If Jane Eyre was never loved or wanted as a child, how do you think thiswill affect her relationships with others as she becomes an adult? How wouldthis "unwanted-ness" be dealt with by someone living in our time?

13 comments:

Lauren said...
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Lauren said...

The only living family members Jane had known of while growing up had treated her poorly. Jane could not trust them, so she would probably have a hard time trusing others. This lack of trust could greatly disrupt her relationships with others. Jane also did not get a chance to develop the necessary social skills to have "normal" relationships. Someone living during our time would probably deal with this in a similar way that Jane is. However, because of the media's influence on our society, someone in Jane's situation would either try harder to make up for their childhood experience or take a turn for the worse and feel depressed.
-Lauren

Shaun(: said...

I agree that due to Jane's childhood Jane will have trust issues.


On the other hand, it is possible that Jane would invest herself fully into a relationship early, setting herself up for disappointment or heartbreak. Because she did not recieve much love as a child it is possible that she now craves it and will try to recieve and hold on to as much as she can.

Unknown said...

I agree that she would in fact have trust issues but she may "fall in love" to fast much like what shaun said. I think in todays world there are so many ways to get over bad childhoods that someone in Jane's situation would find a way to survive.

Unknown said...

I feel like good arguments can be made either way for Jane's situation. I agree that Jane could become more independent and anti-social because of her lack of experience in social situations. But it also seems quite possible that because Jane has not had the luxury and thrill of such interactions and relationships, she may latch onto almost anyone that welcomes her. It is a situation that could go either way but so far I think Jane has remained fairly independent with the exception of her growing attachment to Mr. Rochester.
Love,
Nick Nieminen

Maureen Lindell said...

As a parent, I so worry about how childhood impacts kids... I think, though, that in Jane's case, her childhood is just one aspect of her development as a person. I feel like she learns independence and assertiveness and then sill learn other important elements as she moves forward in her life.

I like Jane as a character because she is someone who takes chances and is willing to deal with the consequences. Although she may not like the consequences, she is strong enough to deal with them!

Me

rach! said...

I think Jane's past will and does show up in her adult life, but maybe in different ways than we might think. I think her experience in the red room is what's making Thornfield creepier than it already is. I also think the innocence that she grew up in will make her vulnerable. On the other hand, her upbringing at the hands of John and the other Reeds also gave her a spine. So, she might be duped easily, but she will be able to recover and come back quickly.

Unknown said...

Jane Eyre not being very loved as a child, I think, causes her to not have that much feeling now, as she is a grown woman. Not experiencing the feelings or teachings for love might cause Jane to not understand the concept of lover herself, however, I do think that she has love for Mr. Rochester, and that although her aunt and cousins did not love or express their love to her in a good way, she is on the right way to being loved and sharing love with another person.

Anonymous said...

I feel that Jane will be very antisocial because of her lack of experience with other people. Because she was never exposed to other children or the world outside of Aunt Sarahs house she will not know or understand how to be social with others.

-Mike

Anonymous said...

I think that since Jane wasn't loved or wanted as a child she would want to be even more. As she said to her aunt, as she died, that she wanted to be loved when she was little. So, I think the lack of love in her childhood makes her want to be loved more.

jennnnnnn:) said...

Jane never being loved or wanted as a child will affect her when she is an adult because she will never know how to accept someone who truely loves her. I also believe she will never be able to trust anyone or become close enough for someone to hurt her because every person in her life has somehow damaged her. Her Aunt neglected her, while Helen died, and Miss Temple left Lowood.
-Jen:)

Unknown said...

I think that this will cause Jane to be wary of relationships with others, especially men. However, if she finds the other person to be loyal and caring, she will form a strong relationship, as she says many times throughout the book that all she desires is a little love. This is shown with Mr. Rochester: in the beginning she is suspicious of him, but as she learns to trust him, their relationship becomes stronger.

-Amanda

katie =) said...

Not being loved as a child would affect Jane as an adult because she might have issues recognizing when someone loves her and she wouldnt know how to respond to it. When Jane was growing up she was very confined and did not experience many things at Lowood, so when she needed to leave the school and start knew things it was hard for her to trust new people and to get sccustommed to their way of life.

-Katie P